Strategies for Success

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The great therapist Milton Ericson once stated: In the presence of rapport, anything is possible. Rapport is generally defined as the establishment of trust, harmony and cooperation in a relationship. So learning how to create rapport; and develop a deep connection with others will certainly help us to communicate much more effectively. It's said that when people are like each other, they will more readily like each other. When people are not like each other, they will not so readily like each other. When you like someone, you are more willing to assist them, and help them get whatever they want.

Seven percent of our communication effectiveness is about the words we use; thirty eight percent is due to our tone of voice, and fifty five percent is due to our physiology. And most of our communication is outside our conscious awareness. An opportunity therefore exists for us to create more effective nonverbal communication, and that's what establishing rapport is all about.

So what's it take to develop rapport? For people to like and open up to you, you'll need to demonstrate genuine interest in them first. Be interested rather than interesting.

Whenever someone feels that you are interested in knowing and understanding them at a deep level, they will open up and share their true feelings more readily. Therefore we should fully focus with a sincere sense of curiosity about; how they feel, how they think, how they see the world. Their hopes, dreams, and fears, their aspirations and the obstacles they face.

Creating rapport is easy to learn. Influence works at a nonconscious level, so we must first get the other persons nonconscious mind to pay attention. So you should first develop deep rapport prior to putting your point of view. This means you mirror their posture, and match the pitch, pace, and tonality of their voice, and any other behaviour you observe. Cultivate a slow head nod. When you're in rapport with someone and you nod your head, the other person is likely to do the same thing. Every time that person nods their head, it sends an unconscious 'yes' signal to their nervous system.

And we are more likely to follow a suggestion from someone we trust. So when you connect the other person is much more likely to respond to your suggestions. Be sure you match the other person exactly. Yes exactly. Initially start with a slight delay in matching or mirroring; then within a minute or two begin to match the person almost simultaneously. Avoid subtly mirroring; as this won't create a match. Mirror exactly what they do, and do it at the same time as they do.

Anything is possible when you're in deep rapport; so simply pre-suppose you're in rapport and act as if you are. To create rapport, sit upright and relaxed with your legs and feet pointed towards the other person, don't cross your legs, your hands can be flat on your thighs, or loosely held with your fingertips together if you aren't using them to gesture, you should also maintain strong but not intense eye contact. You can; slightly lower your voice tone, touch their arm, raise your eyebrows, move your head to one side, slow down your speaking. With practice, you will be amazed at how quickly and easily you are able to do this.

"Rapport has been described as what happens when we get the attention of someone's nonconscious mind, and meet them at their 'map of the world' its more commonly understood as the sense of ease and connection that develops when you are interacting with someone you trust and feel comfortable with. Being able to get into rapport with other people isn't just a key for successful influence; it's also one of the most enjoyable and relaxing skills you can learn because people like to be around people who are in rapport with them." - Jamie Smart

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Bharath Balakrishnan
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Is learning english truly global

In today’s world, one word that every global organization chants is “Globalization”. What is globalization? In simple words, globalization is the process by which people, organizations and entities across the world interact in an integrated environment supported by technology.

Doesn’t it sound blissful? It would be great if people across the world could interact seamlessly for jobs, opportunities, programs or problems. This dates back to the times when countries used the barter system to share goods and services.

So if everything is so simple, then why do corporations across the world struggle to work in a globalized economy? The answer is simple. People come from different countries and culture and one primary issue that every person faces is ability to communicate with another effectively.

Communication has been the basis of globalization from the time people, companies or countries started interacting with each other. It is for this reason that companies across the world insist of effective communication. Communication in its true sense holds no barriers.

The need for effective communication is constantly stressed amongst employees of large companies. Today English has been widely accepted as the common language of business communication. With the growth of outsourcing market, the emphasis of cross border training has been significant. The investments made by large corporation on employee training and development have grown manifold. The nature of training provided to enable employees stand competitive in global economies has under gone a radical change.

For example – In the recent past, there has been tremendous emphasis on Personality Development courses such as Good Manners and Etiquette, Body language and postures, Telephone speaking skills etc.

These courses are primarily directed towards people from developing countries like India, Philippines, China and Korea. Is learning English truly global now?

Authored by Bharath Balakrishnan – Founder: www.DragonEnglish.com

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The initiative is also aimed at providing a substantial income to teachers, teacher aspirants, graduate and under graduate students or work from home parents from US, UK and other countries by providing them a legitimate work from home opportunity. We are actively seeking teachers to join our panel. Register with us now at www.DragonEnglish.com